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Posts tagged ‘gratitude’

FRIDAY FIASCO – MY NON-GRATITUDE LIST

What I Should Be Grateful For …

This coming weekend is the Canadian Thanksgiving weekend. 
I can hear gobble gobble and smell pumpkin pie already, but am I always thankful?

THANKLESS CONFESSIONS

THANKLESS CONFESSIONS

Here is a list of things I simply struggle with to express sincere gratitude .  I’ll bet if you read a few it will inspire one or two of your own.  Feel free to leave your THANKLESS comments, and  don’t expect thank-yous in return! 🙂

 

1.  I don’t feel thankful when people drive by and SPLASH the heck out of me and Ginger talking a walk in the rain.  Can anyone say drenched?

2.  I lack that loving feeling when I order a dark roast coffee from those cafes that keep them in the big urn and they are LUKEWARM in my cup from the first sip.  YUCK!

3.  I lack the gratitude attitude when the nail tech goes bonkers on my toenails and cuts them so short they radiate pain waves ~~~~~~for at least a week when I wear my heels.

4. I don’t go “singing in the rain” when I order a vegetarian pizza only to get home and open the box to find circles of PEPPERONI smeared recklessly around the entire surface. 

5. The THANK O METER is motionless when telephone marketers continue to call me, only to have me answer (finally), and find there is on one on the line.  I am now supposed to WAIT for them to find the time to chat!

6. WHO MADE MILK CHOCOLATE?  Ick!  Bring on the Dark Tones Baby!

7.  I am NOT FEELING THE LOVE when I try on several pairs of jeans to try to update my wardrobe to the latest size I require, only to find that designers have conspired to prove that the state of Texas and my bum have more than natural oil in common!

8. Have you ever entered an empty elevator only to discover that SOMEONE was there before you, and that someone had something going on “inside” that wanted OUT?  Come on, how do we become grateful for that?

YES a live in mouse!

YES a live-in mouse!

9. A few years ago I kept hearing the strangest noise coming from the kitchen when I was working quietly on my computer.  I couldn’t pin point from where, but I gradually got curious.  I WAS NOT SAYING “Well Blessed Be”  when I investigated to find a MOUSE living INSIDE the toaster!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

10. Come on…you gotta write number 10!  Let’s hear it…

In the Grace of the Moment,
Harmony

PS Find the toaster at Chiasso   

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Create The Week You Want to Live

(I apologize for the wacky formatting. I have tried to fix it repeatedly and now would rather publish it than spend one more minute on formatting.  Perfectionists, I am at your mercy. 🙂

Why let your week happen without your creative design? 

They tell us over 90% of our thoughts are UNCONSCIOUS,
meaning we are not aware of what we are thinking, or creating!

Instead we think the same routine, boring 10%. 
For most of us is full of worry, details, scheduling, concerns,
resentments, frustrations, regrets, and unanswered questions.
Very few thoughts, in the whole scheme of things, are serving
us by creating what we want – because we are not even aware of
what they are.

Imagine being behind the wheel of your car late at night.
There are no street lights, only the moon is offering her silver shimmersfrom the sky (or the unconscious).    It is dark.
You are then instructed to put your foot to the gas pedal and drive full
speed.  You are going somewhere, but you have no idea where, or how to
take control of it.  You are in the dark and moving fast.

We are driving our lives at full speed, but in the dark.

What can we do about it?

Bring more of your thoughts into your awareness.

Create what you want with a thought, not a reaction.

For instance:  It’s Monday evening and you had another frustrating day
at work.  The same things, with different names, seem to happen on most Monday’s.
As you sit down to eat your dinner and suddenly realize, that they deep sigh you just
let out, and the intrinsic fatigue in your deepest self, is the same sigh and
weariness you feel most everytime you sit down to the table for your evening meal.

It’s a repeating pattern.

1+2=3 1+2=3 1+2=3

TRY THIS: After dinner, find a paper and pen and your most comfortable lounging chair.
Ask yourself: What would I like to remember about this week when Sunday night rolls around?

If you were sitting in this same chair on Sunday evening, and this had been a really great week, what
would have happened?

  • Would you be sharing the evening with someone you love?
  • Would you have received an unexpected $500?
  • Would you have lost 3 lbs?
  • Would your collegue have asked to resolve an issue?

Only you know what defines “a really great week” for you.

Choose one thing.

Imagine yourself FEELING how you would feel if your old friend, whom you have missed
so much, called you this week out of the blue and suggested having dinner with you on
Sunday night?  Feel how happy you would be to hear from them.  Hear their voice.
Let yourself enjoy the evening in advance with your imagination.

(Now don’t tell me you can’t do that!  You are doing it whenever you worry about the
way things will turn out…it is your imagination in action. You can do this- it may simply
feel unfamililar, and that is okay.)

Once you decide on a creative thought, here are a couple tips that may help.

1. State the creation in the present tense.  “I am enjoying a warm and relaxing evening with someone
I love.  Our converstion is refreshing, I am feeling alive and connected and hopeful
about life.”

2. Ask yourself if your creative desire is beneficial to you, for those around you, and for the planet?
If it’s not, you will not get behind it fully, and you are wasting your time.  Enough bad stuff happens from
the 90%.  So be sure you are in agreement, at your values level, with the outcome.  If so…

3. Give yourself permission to enjoy it.

I, Harmony, give my permission for Harmony to enjoy the company of someone she
loves and loves her.  Harmony is free to meet, or reconnect with human beings that are loving
and kind and supportive.  Harmony can feel good, or elated or satisfied.  She is authorized to
live her wildest dreams and feel content in the process.  I am behind Harmony 100%

4. Give thanks.   “I am moving toward my creations.  I am blessed and powerful and my heart
is full of gratitude as I enjoy the process of creating blessing for me and for the world around me.

You probably read a lot f blogs and take in a lot of information.  But this blog will do you NO GOOD,
unless you STOP, and take some time for creative intentions.  I wish you light and love on your creative journey.

In the Grace of the Moment,
Harmony

PS Many thanks to Mark DM at Flickr for the nighttime photo and all the other photos so generously shared with the world.

Coffee Lovers and Meditation Unite

I am a coffee nut.  I admit it.  First thing in the morning, there is nothing finer than the smell of a great coffee bean grounded and finally dripping into my coffee cup.  I drink it strong, dark and black, so I don’t need much.

But by 1 or 2 in the afternoon, I am ready to escape the noise of my business life and find another moment to myself. 

Coffee helps me escape from my surroundings, and unless I am in meeting sharing conversation with someone else, I use my “coffee time” for a midday meditation time.

People often have a difficult time finding time for meditation so I offer a few techniques I have used over the years to get the most out of my java.  (Can be performed with tea or hot chocolate too I suppose, but the question begs to be asked, “Why”?  Smile)

How to Meditate and Drink Coffee at the Same Time

1. Go it alone.  This seems obvious but to some it may be difficult.  This is not the time to chat, or to call a friend to meet you.  It’s all ready too crowded with me, myself, and I.  That is why we meditate, to still some of the chatter going on inside in our own head.
2. Go it with gratitude.  Before you leave your car, or your office, or your bedroom, begin to say “thank you”.  Imagine the coffee, the time alone and the opportunity to enjoy silence and start the “gratitude attitude” mindset in motion.
3. Go for an empty table.  It doesn’t matter how busy it is, how many people are in line, who is talking about what on their cell phone, and how many babies are screaming.  You can do this.  It is about you and your coffee, that is all there is.
4. Go for the feel of it.  Put your hand around the cup and feel the heat come through.  What does it feel like as the heat enters your hand and begins to warm your entire body?  Bring your attention to the sensation and notice.  You may find yourself feeling comfort, welcomed, nurtured or just plain sweaty.  Don’t worry about what the feeling; just pay enough attention to your hands and the cup to feel something.
5. Go for the smell.  Smell the coffee and breathe in your silence. Use the aroma as a point of reference.  Nothing else matters.  No conversation is important.  You are entering your own world of sensation and peace.  Relax with it and don’t force your feeling.  Simply notice what you do feel.

Time outYou may feel irritated, distracted, busy, hurried, bothered, or nothing at all.  All of those and more is perfectly okay.  If you practice this meditation for 2 weeks on a daily basis, either at home or at your favorite coffee hang out (or at a new one you choose for this experiment), you will soon experience much more presence and much less distractions.

6. Go for the taste.  Stop and notice the feel of the heat on your lips, your tongue, and your entire mouth.  Notice the taste you often take for granted.  Be present to the feeling you have as you sip your java.  Have you escaped for a few moments from pressure?  This is your time after all to quiet yourself.
7. Go for a few long breaths.  Notice yourself having a sip, swallowing and then sitting back with a large, slow inhalation and slow, thoughtless exhalation.  Repeat this 3 or 4 times before enjoying your next sip.
8. Go for silence.  It may take you a few attempts to be able to disconnect from the noise around you, but it will take much longer to disconnect from noise inside you.  That constant barrage of words, thoughts, “should of”, scolds, checklists, fantasies etc… is a drain on your internal resources.  It is time for a 10-second break from it all.  So let your mind drift into space. 

Here is a trick I use to help me disconnect:

Focus your eyes on an object in the room or outside the room.  Stare but don’t follow any action.  Simply stare.  After about 3 or 4 seconds, your eyeballs will relax. 
(Usually, this type of focus is accompanied by a breath that is more “releasing” than normal.  You don’t need to force this breath, it just arrives on time by its’ own initiative.)
If you stay with it, everything but your focus will go slightly blurred.  And then stay, and breathe.  Make it a conscious choice to remain.  Your entire body will relax into the focus.
You don’t need to stay all day, but 30 seconds will make a remarkable impact on your state of being.

9. Go repeat numbers 4-8.  Do it as many time as you are comfortable with and finish your coffee (or not).

10. Go with gratitude.  Don’t judge the effectiveness, or how it should have been any other way.  Thank Life for what you just felt, and leave it alone, until the next time.

FINAL WORD OF CAUTION:  If you drink high caffeine laden coffee, and you drink several cups a day, try this meditation early in the day, before your entire nervous system is whacked! (smile)

In the Grace of the Moment,

Harmony

PS The photo is taken from an article I feel is only appropriate to recommend to my readers who enjoy coffee, with or without meditation.  Visit Carson Valley Vitality for an interesting medical observation of coffee. 

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