What does it mean when someone says that you are “too controlling” or,
“Look Jane, this is out of your control!”
Out of our pop psychology generation, we picked up a lot of terms that show we really understand what is going on. (Or NOT)
- “This is my issue, not yours.”
- “It’ not you, it’s me.” (Thank God Dr. Seinfeld and Georgie taught us that one!)
- I need some “downtime” or a “time-out”
- I don’t feel “centered”
Right up there with “unresolved anger,” and “significant other” is a term we have become quite familiar with – c.o.n.t.r.o.l.
The dictionaries suggest we think of phrases like “to be in the driver’s seat” or “hold the reins” to help us get a mental picture of what it means to control.
But I suggest another approach.
Is it my business?
Being in control means= that I make everything MY BUSINESS.
Maybe it’s not my business and not in my control. It could be my neighbors business, or God’s business – but it’s often not MY BUSINESS.
For the next few posts I would like to explore with you the ART OF BEING IN MY OWN BUSINESS.
Will you help? What I am asking of each reader is to take just a moment or two and comment telling us one thing you know is your business, and one thing you know is NOT your business even though you might be tempted to make it so.
Then if you will, subscribe to the comments RSS for this post and keep an eye on what others are saying. If you find that it triggers yet another “this is my business” comment, or “this is not my business” comment in you, please come back and comment again. (You can certainly UNSUBSCRIBE to the comments whenever you are tired of it all. (that is easily done in the email where the RSS notice arrives)
You never know, what you share might not be something someone else really needed to read.
I am going to kick it off, by sharing in the first comment below with the Goldenzen avatar . Take a look – make it your business to know! 🙂
Upcoming Blog Entries: The Art Of Being In My Own Business
- When is it My Business?
- What is Not My Business?
- How Can I Let it Go?
- When Should I Let It Go?
- Help, it’s back!
Thanks for your participation!
In the Grace of the Moment,
Thank you to G’na at Flicker for the animal photo – http://www.flickr.com/photos/g-na/2344863442/ your gift sure helps me share mine much more effectively. Her photostream of animals is beautiful!