Making Room For Change

Have you ever desired a change in your life so badly that you thought you would do anything to get it?

Only to find out you wouldn’t do what it takes to change.

Our view of change is often focused on the outside conditions or circumstances.  We don’t like our house, we want a change.  Our job is boring, we want change.  Our partner has grown chubby and lazy, we definitely need a change.

Maybe you do need a change!
Maybe you do need a change!

Change seems to be a mysterious solution to our retired desires.

What used to bring us joy resembles dust now – it used to be a “solid something”, now we just want to make a quick swipe and be done with it.

Of course, change in itself is evolutionary, healthy and expansive.  Gandhi often changed his mind.  An aide once asked him how he could so freely contradict this week what he had said just last week.  Gandhi said this week, he knew better.


Here is the difficulty:

The change we seek is often a change that must begin within.  Changing your circumstances may provide momentary relief, but in an hour, a day, a month, that same longing re-appears and creates a quiet disturbance in most everything you do.

What changes have you verbalized you need lately?  Maybe you wrote them in your journal, confided them to a friend, or muttered them to yourself during your daily commute. 

Before making a list of what needs to happen for the change to take place:

1. Make a new budget
2. Go on a diet
3. Apply for jobs across the country

Allow yourself to quiet for awhile and ask, “what change is required in here?”

There is no one here but you.
There is no one here but you.

There is no judgment, no punishment, and no sarcasm in that quiet solace.  You will find only truth and light for you to follow.  If you do hear accusations or recriminations – recognize you have no yet found the quiet solace and are hearing only echoes of your past influences.  Keep on your journey; truth awaits your arrival.

As you begin your inner change, watch out, the whole world changes!


In the Grace of the Moment,


PS.  My gratitude to Roger Garbett, a real estate agent in Philly whose photo was so appropriate to the message.

And to my friend, another Roger, whom I meet hiking ever so often, who graciously sends me photos of nature.


13 Comments Add yours

  1. Robin says:

    Hi Harmony – I really like what you are saying here – this is SO true: “The change we seek is often a change that must begin within.” – great stuff!

  2. Davina says:

    Hi Harmony.

    I couldn’t agree more about looking inside for change. It is easy to look past what is right in front of us. Sometimes it’s simply a matter of changing perspectives and things suddenly look different.

  3. goldenzen says:

    Thank you Robin – did you like the snapshot of my new home? Giggle

    Davina- I just wrote for a guy (ghostwriter at large 🙂 on perspectives and how 3 men could be watching the same event, with completely different OBJECTIVES which strongly affected their PERSPECTIVE. All three saw exactly the same thing, but because of their individual filters, they saw something SUBJECTIVE. Great to see you so active in with your gifts D.


  4. Hi Harmony,

    I love the quote from Gandhi. “This week, he knew better.” There’s a lot of truth to that. Growth often happens like that. We change from day to day, week to week, month to month. And in that change, we grow wiser.

    BTW: It’s great to see you writing again. I missed you.

  5. goldenzen says:

    Yes, some of us grow wiser. Some of us just grow. 🙂 THKS! I appreciate your warm words.

  6. I have to admit, I love change (generally speaking). I like new jobs, moving, etc. In the last few years, I’ve gotten a little weary of these changes but since I’m pretty good at adapting to new situations, I usually feel positive when these things happen, whereas some people totally freak out. Change is good, but too much of it can be pretty exhausting.

  7. Simon says:

    I too love the quote from Gandhi! If only present day politicians were so honest – and if only the news media *allowed* them to change their minds…

    It’s interesting that you use the word ‘perspective’ in your comment above, Harmony. I’ve been feeling disgruntled and unfulfilled the last few days, but what I’ve been disgruntled and unfulfilled *about* has varied from day to day. It’s obvious to me that what needs changing are not those outside *things* at all but something inside me: my perspective on those things, my perspective on life. So often, it’s not what you think is wrong that is wrong at all, but something very much closer to home.

    I love the fact that the photo came from a real estate agent. How much is he asking for the house?

  8. neyellen says:

    Hi Harmony,

    I hope you’re feeling better. Good to read your words again.
    I know there is nothing but change and we aren’t static beings but I try to pretend I’m solid. Solidity seems safe and real. Actually, I don’t have to pretend, I’m fully ensconsed in the illusion.
    Take care.

  9. mergingpoint says:

    Wondeful post! most needed to apply into day to day living.
    That one moment of awareness that brings us closer to our own true self!

  10. tobeme says:

    Great words, very wise! The key is to not judge, to open and allow!

  11. surjit says:

    a great message for self improvement:
    ..’change in itself is evolutionary, healthy and expansive…’
    A good post. Thanks for sharing.
    God bless.

  12. goldenzen says:

    Thanks to each one for your comments! I just came back from a short holiday…guess I needed a “change” 🙂

  13. Harmony- Virtual hugs. So good to hear from you.

    Ommm. I hope you have moments of lovely stillness and breathtaking views. No matter what. 🙂

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