Help! I Want To Lose My Mind

It’s not a request you hear everyday.  Most of us are quite happy to have our minds intact.
Why would anyone inquire about how to lose their train of thought?

There used to be a constant chatter in my head from worry, past regrets, future concerns, social injustices, sad circumstances, news reports, the state of economy, pain in my body, and the rumors of impending doom in the stock market and gas prices was out of control!  There was so much going on in my head that I was dizzy with mindless drizzle.

I needed to lose my train of thought.


Losing your mind is not as insane as you may think.

When you are able to lose the mind’s chatter, you have a chance at knowing your true self, and your limitless potential. In the stillness of a seeming void, where no thoughts and persistent doubts are present, life is teeming with potentiality. Your best self resides amidst space, stillness, and silent pause.

In the active mind, the egoic discourse keeps you so preoccupied, that the unlimited you is hard to recognize.


How do we begin the conscious act of losing our mind?

Unlike the alternative, the conscious loss of thought is a choice we make to step aside and view ourselves, from outside our thoughts. You already do it at times: like when you say, ‘I thought to myself,” or “I said to myself” or better yet, “I couldn’t help but ask myself.” Who is doing the asking, and who is listening?

Why you of course.

Common signs of insanity come when people are not able to make a conscious choice to see themselves as they are, and they choose instead to allow the fear, the memories, or the hopelessness they feel to take charge of their minds.  I don’t recommend this approach.

There is a grand alternative.  The choice to begin to SLOW down the machine in your skull, to BEGIN to observe it’s constant chatter, to LISTEN to the sounds of silence that occasionally occur throughout the day, and LET GO of the need to do all this perfectly or in any order or within a given time frame.


The state of conscious freedom is spontaneous for some.  I have only known a couple of people who seemed to transform “overnight.”  The majority of folks “awaken” slowly, like a hibernating bear in her cave.  As we begin the journey from here to a healthy state of MINDLESSNESS, I urge you to practice non-judgment towards yourself. What you will hear in your head, and the words you’ll feel exiting your lips, will utterly surprise and amaze you.  You will begin to understand how close to insanity you have been for so long; insanity of course meaning a life that doesn’t make much sense.



So how do you begin?

My suggestion for this week is two simple observations:

1. Stop often.  Stop and pay attention to what you are thinking.  When you are driving to work, looking at a website, changing the sheets on the bed, reading your child a story at bedtime, or getting the oil changed on the car.  Simply stop and pay attention.  The person who pays attention, is noticing the thoughts of the mind.  The person, who pays attention is beyond thought. For now, if you can experience this observation for once or twice a day and do that for the next week, something interesting will become obvious to you.  Please come back and share it in the comments if you like.
2. Notice only.  No judgments allowed.  This week is a time for tuning into the endless chatter channel in your brain.  The very act of noticing is a phase of awareness to be honored and appreciated.  If you allow yourself to fall into judgment, you are practicing the unhealthy insanity that many of our homeless friends and mental patients experience.  Our objective is only to observe and appreciate the observation.  (Come back and share – we’ve all so much to learn.)

Next week, I will share with you some of the practical tips you can use to help your mind slow down and become restful.   When the mind is at ease, you are able to tap into the unlimited “void” or “space” where LIFE permeates your being and sets your soul soaring; where the idea or desire to “be happy” is utterly and abundantly possible.

In the Grace of the Moment,






23 Comments Add yours

  1. Friar says:

    You post reminds me of John Lennon’s lyrics from his song “Tomorrow Never Knows” :

    Turn off your mind, relax and float down stream,
    It is not dying, it is not dying

    Lay down all thoughts, surrender to the void,
    It is shining, it is shining.

    (Okay, mabye he was high on something when he wrote that.) But I still I think those are awesome lyrics.

    Float downstream. I’d LOVE to be able to do that.

    Sometimes I can. But it takes a lot of practice.

  2. wendikelly says:


    Did you have an imaginary friend when you where little? I did. I talked to her ALL THE TIME. She lived in my head. I talked to her. AND SHE TALKED BACK. That’s right. She actually answered me. Lot’s of life’s mysteries have been figured out by me and my friend.

    It took me a really long time to realize that the rest of you *normal* people didn’t have one of those.

    Then when I was way grown up I realized that all did have one…it was your inside *self* and you just weren’t listening to it. And actually, I think it’s more than a “self, that’s just what I call it..It’s really a self, tapped into a big well, but we don’t have to go all the way there…

    I never stopped talking to my imaginary friend, I just one day realized that my *friend* was part of my *self*.

    Does that make any sense at all or did I just expose my true insanity???

    Honestly, if I ever stopped walking around talking to myself, my kids would wonder what happened to me, I’ve done it my whole life.

  3. Ellen Wilson says:

    You make easy sense of the dharma. Yeah, I am one of those thick headed judgemental ones. I have a lot of “problems” thrown up at me that I want to solve. I want things to be easy, and I want this and that and the other thing. It is hard being rooted in the mud. I want to be the lotus without the mud. Ha! Yes, it is good to start being soft with yourself first and then you won’t be so harsh and judgemental with others. Because then you realize you ARE others anyway. Especially the problem people. Those are the hardest others to deal with. And still I have problems. But right now that’s alright.

    Thanks, Harmony.

  4. Ellen Wilson says:

    I still haven’t figured out how to get my picture in my shadowbox. If anyone can enlighten me that would be good.

  5. Hi Harmony,

    Thank you for another fabulous thought provoking post. Our thoughts are powerful, aren’t they?

    @ Ellen Wilson,

    If you click on your name, it takes you to your WordPress account. Once there, you will find “Upload an Avatar”. Follow the instructions (browse), and your picture should show. ( I just did that and I’m hoping mine shows too. )

  6. I have noticed that when my mind becomes embroiled in a hundred different thought tangents, it helps if I tell it, “Mind, you go ahead and explore these tangents. You’ve got five minutes.” A few minutes later, my focus seems to magically reappear. I think this might be called self-programming. It really works!

  7. surjit says:

    Hi Harmony,
    I agree with your insights.
    We really don’t need anyone to do the talking. We can talk to our own self for hours; we talk when we are awake, we talk in dreams also. A constant monologue is happening. Mind is neurotic and this is really very harmful. No one has harmed us more than this sick mind.
    I think self awareness through meditation can help us to tame our mind to a great extent.
    Thanks for sharing another valuable post. Eagerly waiting your next dose of wisdom.
    God bless.

  8. Hi Harmony,
    I love your execution of the subject and the photos are marvelous. Turning off the chitter chatter of the brain is sometimes an arduous task, but it can be accomplished at the point of surrender. It opens us up to another world of rapture and detachment where the mind can’t control our experience.

    I look forward to losing my mind daily. The mind is a tool to help us gain our spirit.

    Wonderful post.

  9. goldenzen says:

    I am grateful for your “enlightened” comments and suggestions.

    I am not sure what has happened to the avatars…interesting…I will look into it and offer guidance if I can find it.

    I would say from reading your comments we all agree, our minds are nuts…:-) Thankfully, we are not the slave of our minds and we are learning to befriend the silent places of our souls.

    Many blessings to each of you…

  10. Simon says:

    This is very well presented, Harmony. I make many agreements with myself to switch off my mind. And my mind is always happy to go along with it. After all, if I succeed, it will make me feel really good about myself. I’ll be able to brag about it to all my friends, won’t I? So yes, my mind is always happy to go along with it – for about five seconds. Then it kicks in again with a recollection of this or that – or an opinion about something or other. So yes, watching my mind instead is something I should try more often. I’ll let you know how I get on.

    (Are you having the wonderful weather that we’re having? The trowel and the watering can have been shouting louder than blogging the last few days…)

  11. Simon says:

    I was supposed to be closing a bracket rather than winking at the end there! But the universe clearly had other ideas…

  12. tobeme says:

    This is a great post with much wisdom. Yes, we must lose our mind to find our authentic self. Yes we must become the detached observer to understand who we truly are. Very good!

  13. Friar says:

    Hi Harmony

    Tag! You’re it. I’ve tagged you to play Brett’s blog game!

  14. Robin says:

    Nice post Harmony – simply observing ourselves is especially powerful, I reckon!

    Cheers – Robin

  15. Liara Covert says:

    I like the idea of losing oneself being necessary to find oneself. It may initially seem ironic or bizarre, but the more you think about it, the more sense it makes. You need to let go of what you have learned in order to rediscover what you have known all the time, but temporarily fortgot.

  16. Ellen Wilson says:

    @ Barbara – Thanks for that.

    @Friar – Well, Harmony got tagged twice because I tagged her too.

    @Harmony – Don’t feel obligated to play if you don’t want. I thought it was kind of fun. Now I have to go read Friar’s comments.

    Good Day All.

  17. Marion says:

    I liked your photo illustrations, Harmony. And living with no judgement is wonderful, acceptance comes so easily after I learned that.

    Great post…thank you.

  18. soulintention says:

    Very nice, that committee we keep between our ears is at times our worst critic. Disband the committee and focus on your heart voice.

    Thanks for the reminder


  19. Ellen Wilson says:

    Hi Harmony,

    I know you’re being harmonic and all, but I was just checking up on you since you haven’t posted in awhile.

    I can wait.

  20. goldenzen says:

    My friends…thanks for asking me to come out and play…sorry I was in the “dog house.” (See today’s post, Harmony had Left the Building)

    All of your comments are rich and tasty!

    You know it has been very interesting to be a “teacher” of the now and silence, and then to be forced to BE silent about silence. Hmmm.

  21. mergingpoint says:

    wonderful site for wisdom and insights!
    yes, withdrawal is as essential as action. The quality and the fragrance of the action arises from the withdrawn stillness of self.

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